Love is actually a sensitive topic itself. One could ultimately
challenge the question by simply saying does it truly exist anymore? Or
do we as human understand the true aspects of it?
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I think that over half of the world seen the premiere of Love & Hip
Hop of Atlanta yesterday night. I am also sure that bloggers all over
the world are going crazy when blogging about the show. The potentials
of the show and characters are so unpredictable right now, that no one
knows exactly what is to unfold.
But "Black Love...on TV? Where has it went? Honestly, if one could
answer that question, they could probably tell the world why our society
and communities have become the way that they are. If I was forced to
give an educated answer about why "Black Love" has taking the turn in
which it has, I would simply reply, "the critics of the world".
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What do I mean by "critics of the world"? I mean the mainstream people
(CEO's of Media Companies) pulling all the strings on shows that will
get them where they want to be socially and financially. The people
that have the power to shut down a show after one season because it is
not producing enough ratings. The same people that analyze things on
the internet, the hardcore statistics of the media world, that know
exactly what it takes to produce more money and more money.
On the other hand of things, you have the other critics (the audience)
that sit at their perspective homes and view these specifics programs,
producing numbers to keep the media broadcasting knowing and giving the
world what is supposedly wanted.
Taking broadcasting companies, money, and media into one equation, then
you have no choice but to produce what is wanted. Thus leading us to a
lot of drama of TV and the people that are simply ready to work to get
to it. I guess the real question here is, "Are these people really like
this?" Although, America's teenagers and young adults fill up their
twitter pages talking about the very things that tear relationships and
marriages apart on a daily basis.
After reading the blog "Where's the Black Love...on TV?" by Belle Monet,
it forced me to look at the show from a different point-of-view. Our
youth and young adults of today's time that have not been exposed to the
true meanings of love or what a real relationship looks like, get their
examples from shows like this. I can't knock it, because I think its
funny and entertaining. But to quote Belle Monet, "There's still hope,
if people raise their children right" (Belle Monet, "Where's the Black
Love...on TV?).
No Ring
Do you think that its safe to say that our women of these times are lost
due to shows/media like Love & Hip Hop of Atlanta? The particular
question could go in so many different directions.
Belle Monet presents the question of "Do black women feel they have to
settle for less to find love" (Belle Monet, Where's the Black Love...on
TV?)? I would like to go on record by saying no. I believe that
everyone will find their match at some point in time. Women are like
time bombs, so women timers are just longer than others. The reason
that I used "bomb" in this context is because, every bomb has a
different effect. So there will be women that can withstand a little
more or a lot more for that sake that other women cannot. I did not
state that is was right, but what is the ultimate goal without some type
of struggle.
Monet also asked, "Where have all the shows such as Family Matters, The
Cosby Show, and The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air went" (Belle Monet, Where's
the Black Love...on TV?)? Stating that there are no more shows to give
black people a sense of what a happy mature family should look like.
Especially, with both parents in the household.
No disrespect, but for all the readers out there, does TV really have this much influence?
I was once told by a mentor in college that, "Every student looks up to
someone at the university, regardless of rather its an athlete, Greek,
or just a popular person. " Forced me to think about the Athletes that
walked around with their pants hanging off there behinds, the Greeks
that had no respect out in public, and most of all the guys that dogged
girls out on a daily basis. So I guess that TV could have some type of
influence, considering a small time college. In all reality I guess
that I have my mother and grandmother to think for this particular blog.
However, there are still guys out there that want to be married. Guys
that want to be connected to their significant other in more than one
way. Though it may seem as if the media has males and females acting a
certain way because of what they see or think they know is right. If
one knows who they are on the inside, then its safe to know that they
what is right for them.
Side Chicks
We've all had them or been them (Boyfriend #2) from a guy perspective.
Most of the time this is due to a comfort level. Can't find what you
want or exactly what you are looking for, so you settle for the next
best thing. Side people only become a problem when someone no longer
knows their place because feelings have become deeply involved.
With Joseline, Stevie J's little side/rapper chic not knowing her place
anymore because she allows herself to fall into a trap. I guess America
turns the cheek on her because even Belle Monet states, "Is she
compromising herself to make it in the industry" (Belle Monet, "Where's
the Black Love...on TV?)? In correspondence to this question, I think
that both males and females do somethings that they normally wouldn't do
to make it.
All together though, all hope is not lost, there are still a "few good
men" out there. Just depends on how you marketing yourself with
getting one of them. We often allow the wrong things to affect how we
carry out certain things in our lives. I think the media and especially
shows like Love & Hip Hop of Atlanta should not dictate how you
handle your relationship or love ones. Remember that its only TV and we
all have to make a living some kind of way at the exposure of somebody.
-TyRon
