"DiVersODy"

By: LaCheston Moore

“Shawty where you headed tonight?” a popular line within the hit single “Tear it Up” by Controversy and Big D, but also a common phrase in which we have all used at some point in time.  One could safely say that with these catchy tag-lines and soothing, yet bouncy music, that they possess the formula for success as their music can move any crowd.

Controversy and Big D capture words such as, “soothing, fun, sexy, and mind provoking” when describing their music to iPubNow. When considering the ideal audience in which the group chooses to target, they would like to win the hearts and minds of the younger-college crowd.

 

After seeing an exhilarating performance at a local sports bar in Birmingham, Alabama, one would find themselves placing bets on when this group will take off.  Energy, they got that; Hype, they got that; Fans, they got that, as I seen them bring in a number of people with them just for their performance that night.  The vibe that was created when Controversy and Big D hit the stage is one that you will find yourself bobbing your head and singing too; and you have to mention dancing.  From authenticating their own dance moves, to singing to the young ladies on the front rows of their shows.  These young cats may have what it takes to take their music to the next level.

iPubNow finally caught up with Controversy and Big D as they have been hitting the studio hard and making videos for their newly released mixtape Lyrical Healing (http://controversybigd.bandcamp.com/album/lyrical-healing).  The mixtape features their highly favored Tear it Up, Ride Wit Me, Put It On Me, and I Must Be The Man.  Some of these tracks do have official music videos that can be viewed on YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ce09DaQF5H0).

When trying to categorize these young gentlemen, you might find yourself going in circles.  Controversy and Big D told iPubNow that they, “wish to crossover into all genres.  Creating a sound that is like none other in the industry.”

With Controversy and Big D favorite rappers being Eminem and Tupac; and their favorite R&B singers Musiq Soulchild and Sisqo.  One could probably see that they like to mix it up and see what it is that they can produce without mimicking anyone in the industry at all.  The group goes on to state that, “we use no one’s music or style when writing and if we sample anything, its soul music that we produce newly upscale beats to.”

 

Controversy and Big D drive speaks for itself.  Within the next year or so, their goals are to be interviewing and discussing longevity with major record labels.  They are also geared towards ensuring that their music is heard nationwide. 

So in conclusion, on behalf of Controversy and Big D, from iPubNow, “We finna tear it up”.


Twitter:
Controversy: @Im_Controversy
Big D:  @BigD_Niggas
LaCheston:  @LaCheston

Keyshia KA'OIR Set to Brighten Up Birmingham, Alabama

@KeyshiaKAOIR to host "FliFriday's" with @LABELLIFEGUY
at the PH Ultra Lounge, downtown Birmingham

“A Miami Native, with Jamaican roots,” (Keyshia Kaoir Bio, http://keyshiakaoir.com/bio/),the star and face of Timbaland’s and Drake “Say Something” video, are all ways that Keyshia Dior was once known.  Parts of that name will forever live in the industry because of her look, physic,swag, and measurements.  However, her crossover from simply being that girl in a video with “the small waist and nice hips” has stunned the world as she has become the new sensation of the cosmetic world.  Now advertising her products and characteristics through Keyshia “KA'OIR” Cosmetics.

When choosing the ideal words to describe Ms. Ka’oir, a normal person would find themselves describing her as fine, beautiful, banging, and mainly focusing on her physical features.  But through creating her cosmetic line “KA’OIR”she has proved to world that she is so much more.  Keyshia utilizes her “products to demonstrate everything that she is; bright, young, and vibrant” (http://keyshiakaoir.com/bio/).  So if one wanted to attempt to grasp the concept of Ms. Ka’oir, they should respond by saying that she is creative with amazing drive, presenting energy that could move a room full of people anywhere.

KA'OIR Cosmetics

Keyshia tell us in her documentary that can be viewed on YouTube (@KeyshiaKaoir- #BuildingTheBrandPART1 (Documentary) that, “I blew up in the industry in one year.  I did videos, I’m on the cover of magazines, I’m the model of the year.  But at the end of the day, it’s how I presented myself.  I don’t have the label behind me of as, “O she’s such and such, whatever whatever, and now I’m the CEO of my own lipstick line.  Like, I used it as a step-in-stone”  (Keyshia Ka’oir,YouTube Documentary).  Keyshia keep her main objectives in mind when it came to her progress and entrepreneurship,she made things very clear, it’s about business and that is exactly why I am here.

Keyshia at her launch party.

During Keyshia’s debut in the “Say Something” video she stood out as the ideal candidate for the role “Lisa”, the jealous ex-wife, because of what she presented to the directors and personnel of the shoot.  She not only fulfilled the look of what an audience wanted to see in a video girl, but she offered beauty, talent, being an actress; and overall exemplify the ideal of business when promoting herself in the right manner.

Throughout watching Keyshia in her documentary, one will find themselves continuously laughing and smiling at the screen, as she gives off an impression as in easy-go person. Not to get that confused or take away that Keyshia clearly states that she is a “BOSS”.  As she recognizes how things should be done, how to communicate with all reliable sources, and cross the finish-line victoriously.

Well ladies and gentlemen of Birmingham, Alabama.  Justin “LABELLIFEGUY” Guy presents you with the opportunity to see Ms. KA’OIR for yourself. As promised, as Justin continues to be the number one promoter in Birmingham and turn up every single “FliFriday” that’s presented to his audience.  On August 3, 2012, everyone in the city needs to make sure that they are in one building and that's the PH UltraLounge in downtown Birmingham.

~Tyron

FOR ADDITIONAL INFORMATION/ADVANCE TICKETS FOLLOW @ LABELLIFEGUY 

DON'T FORGET TO HIT THE FOLLOW BUTTON ON YOUR BOY @LaCheston

"Where's the Black Love...on TV?" (Blog Response)

Love is actually a sensitive topic itself.  One could ultimately challenge the question by simply saying does it truly exist anymore?  Or do we as human understand the true aspects of it?

Family Matter from the 90's

I think that over half of the world seen the premiere of Love & Hip Hop of Atlanta yesterday night.  I am also sure that bloggers all over the world are going crazy when blogging about the show.  The potentials of the show and characters are so unpredictable right now, that no one knows exactly what is to unfold.

But "Black Love...on TV?  Where has it went?  Honestly, if one could answer that question, they could probably tell the world why our society and communities have become the way that they are.  If I was forced to give an educated answer about why "Black Love" has taking the turn in which it has, I would simply reply, "the critics of the world".

The Cosby

What do I mean by "critics of the world"?  I mean the mainstream people (CEO's of Media Companies)  pulling all the strings on shows that will get them where they want to be socially and financially.  The people that have the power to shut down a show after one season because it is not producing enough ratings.  The same people that analyze things on the internet, the hardcore statistics of the media world, that know exactly what it takes to produce more money and more money.

On the other hand of things, you have the other critics (the audience) that sit at their perspective homes and view these specifics programs, producing numbers to keep the media broadcasting knowing and giving the world what is supposedly wanted.

Taking broadcasting companies, money, and media into one equation, then you have no choice but to produce what is wanted.  Thus leading us to a lot of drama of TV and the people that are simply ready to work to get to it.  I guess the real question here is, "Are these people really like this?"  Although, America's teenagers and young adults fill up their twitter pages talking about the very things that tear relationships and marriages apart on a daily basis.

After reading the blog "Where's the Black Love...on TV?" by Belle Monet, it forced me to look at the show from a different point-of-view.  Our youth and young adults of today's time that have not been exposed to the true meanings of love or what a real relationship looks like, get their examples from shows like this.  I can't knock it, because I think its funny and entertaining.  But to quote Belle Monet, "There's still hope, if people raise their children right" (Belle Monet, "Where's the Black Love...on TV?).

No Ring

Do you think that its safe to say that our women of these times are lost due to shows/media like Love & Hip Hop of Atlanta?  The particular question could go in so many different directions.

Belle Monet presents the question of "Do black women feel they have to settle for less to find love" (Belle Monet, Where's the Black Love...on TV?)?  I would like to go on record by saying no.  I believe that everyone will find their match at some point in time.  Women are like time bombs, so women timers are just longer than others.  The reason that I used "bomb" in this context is because, every bomb has a different effect.  So there will be women that can withstand a little more or a lot more for that sake that other women cannot.  I did not state that is was right, but what is the ultimate goal without some type of struggle.

Monet also asked, "Where have all the shows such as Family Matters, The Cosby Show, and The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air went" (Belle Monet, Where's the Black Love...on TV?)?  Stating that there are no more shows to give black people a sense of what a happy mature family should look like.  Especially, with both parents in the household.

No disrespect, but for all the readers out there, does TV really have this much influence?

I was once told by a mentor in college that, "Every student looks up to someone at the university, regardless of rather its an athlete, Greek, or just a popular person. "  Forced me to think about the Athletes that walked around with their pants hanging off there behinds, the Greeks that had no respect out in public, and most of all the guys that dogged girls out on a daily basis.  So I guess that TV could have some type of influence, considering a small time college.  In all reality I guess that I have my mother and grandmother to think for this particular blog.

However, there are still guys out there that want to be married.  Guys that want to be connected to their significant other in more than one way.  Though it may seem as if the media has males and females acting a certain way because of what they see or think they know is right.  If one knows who they are on the inside, then its safe to know that they what is right for them.

Side Chicks

We've all had them or been them (Boyfriend #2) from a guy perspective.  Most of the time this is due to a comfort level.  Can't find what you want or exactly what you are looking for, so you settle for the next best thing.  Side people only become a problem when someone no longer knows their place because feelings have become deeply involved.

With Joseline, Stevie J's little side/rapper chic not knowing her place anymore because she allows herself to fall into a trap.  I guess America turns the cheek on her because even Belle Monet states, "Is she compromising herself to make it in the industry" (Belle Monet, "Where's the Black Love...on TV?)?  In correspondence to this question, I think that both males and females do somethings that they normally wouldn't do to make it.

All together though, all hope is not lost, there are still a "few good men" out there.  Just depends on how  you marketing yourself with getting one of them.  We often allow the wrong things to affect how we carry out certain things in our lives.  I think the media and especially shows like Love & Hip Hop of Atlanta should not dictate  how you handle your relationship or love ones.  Remember that its only TV and we all have to make a living some kind of way at the exposure of somebody.

-TyRon

Love and Hip Hop of Atlanta Episode 1

Love and Hip-Hop-Atlanta Episode 1:

Actually not looking forward to watching this show at all, I found myself sitting very tentatively with my cousin watching the first episode.  I must admit, for an opener, I can't wait until next Monday just to see what happens next.

However, in this season of Love and Hip-Hop, it almost seems as if there will be a transfer of the drama from the females to the males.

With Lil Scrappy showing a strong sign of having beef with Stevie J for the remainder of the show.  One could really ask themselves of who is this season really gone to be focused on.

Leading up the show, everyone was talking about Lil Scrappy this, Scrappy that and he was on the show for every bit of 10 minutes if that.  With that said, it seems as if the idea candidate for the star of this year season will definitely be Stevie J.

I mean look, take  him into consideration off the first episode.  The only thing that the audience is worried about is what he's gone to be doing next week and for the ladies, what's gone to be his woman reaction to the way that he is treating/acting towards her.

Taking into consideration the different aspect of men we have in today's society, entertainment, and sports lives, then its definitely not gone to be hard to figure out that this season will also be a success.  The people that have grown to love these type shows, feed off of the negative energy and the drama.  Those components alone give you a hit show.  And the premiere of this show has shown its audience that this is definitely what you will receive.

Some of the cast from this years season.

However, back to Stevie J, one could almost agree that he has set the tone for himself for the duration of the show.  He probably has about 50% of the guys in the world rooting for him and now thinking that they are Stevie J because they can somewhat relate. Then 30% of the world which would be the women that are totally against him with their "say so's" about how he is treating Mimi.  The other 20% are simply going with the flow of things. The people that overly excited about the drama in the show.

On Stevie J's behalf, if I had to make a personal call on the guy.  I would have to say that he is only putting on a show, because he is an entertainer first and foremost.  The guy knows where home is and dog's never stray to far home.  Again, he will be spending the remainder of the show trying to win Mimi back and prove that he is worthy of her love and respect.

Everyone else in this season will just fall in place.  Wait, hold up just a moment, I can't end this without talking about Mama Dee, "in that order".  Mama Dee will be one of those characters to surprise the world every single Monday because we (the audience) do not know what to expect on her behalf.  All I can say about her is standby.

With that said, I look forward to the next episode, as well as answering any responses to the blog about the show.  Stay tuned for the blog of episode two.

-TyRon

"Super Sigmas - Troy Sigmas Save 2 Elderly People from Car Crash"

This past weekend was suppose to be nothing but fun and more fun, as Mike and I journeyed the road to reach a specific destination.  The Atlanta Greek Picnic 2012, was the only thing on our minds, especially Mike with his driving.

Thought the drive was not that bad, especially after considering the people that we meet from Indiana, Seattle, and Tampa.  I must say, that Mike's driving was still crazy, burning up the road trying to reach our final stop for the night.

When I tell you that Mike that was driving with his foot in the floorboard.  He was literally driving so fast that I attempted to fastened my seatbelt after it was already connected.
Mile after mile I was simply hoping not to get pulled over by the cops.  I guess when they say, "don't think about the police or mention them because they will pop up," they really meant it.  As soon as I put my phone down from tweeting the homies that had already touched down in the city  we where about 40 miles out, the lights came on.

I just knew that we were about to get off.  Man we college students, on a way to a historical event, I know Mike can talk his way out of this one.  The Alabama State Trooper with Georgia Plates on his vehicle (yes, I know weird right) said, "Son do you know that you were going 88 in a 55?"  I immediately hung my head and said, "man he bout to give Mike a ticket."
I personally hated it for him, because paying tickets is a beast.  Seems that they are due right round the time when anther bill is due or you simply just don't got the money to pay for them.
As we both hung our heads due to this ticket spoiling the moment for the both of us and I honestly didn't have to deal with it.  The trooper sent us on our way and we slowly began back with our journey to Atlanta.

If I recall correctly, it wasn't even a good 10 miles that we went up the road.  Traffic was stopped for some odd reason as Mike broke his speed.  I look ahead to try and see what was going on and I seen a vehicle down, that was crashed very badly on the back passenger side of the vehicle.  The one thing that cause me to tell Mike to stop was because I seen pedestrians running across the street.  I immediately turned my head to the right to see a car upside down, crashed into a tree.

The Sigma Angel

The only thing that was going through my head was that, "something is wrong and we need to help Mike."  I then told Mike, "Pull over brah, those people need help!"   Mike pulled to the side of the road.  I jumped out, the bat mobile (That's what Mike calls his car) and ran/slide down the hill.  I started talking to the passengers of the crashed vehicle as the other by-stander that were helping was communicating with them as well.

The immediate problem that posed a threat towards myself as well as the passengers inside the crashed vehicle was that there was a hugh rock in front of the passenger side door.  I began to try and move it, taking lacerations to my hands and fingertips.  However, the rock was to heavy for me to move myself.  Mike standing still at the road trying desperately to contact 911, jumps down the hill to help me move the rock as we finally get it moved.

The pressure from the vehicle being upside down now becomes a problem as we are having problems breaking the windows because the doors are jammed.  The other by-stander remembers that he has some kind of steal beam inside of his vehicle.  As I continue to converse with the victims letting them know that we are about to get them out of the car.  Mike yells downs and tells us that, "paramedics and polices are on the way."

Once the by-stander returns, he breaks the front driver side window and I began to clear the glass from around the window.  We instruct the female victim that she will be the first to leave the vehicle.
Slowly but surely, we get her out and next the male.  Seeing that these people were elderly and no wounds, only scratches, this was truly the work of the man above himself.

Photos from the actual accident along Interstate I-20
North bound toward Atlanta, Georgia

The vehicle that the 2 elderly people drove was a Honda Accord.  So to Honda, whatever you all or doing for your vehicles to save lives, please continue to do so.

I witness this vehicle upside down, crashed into a tree and no one was ejected from the vehicle.  You can't ask for anything more from your car or from the good Lord.

Though I felt like a hero and that I had did something meaningful  on my way to Atlanta, my friend Mike was puzzled about the entire situation. He called his mom and everything. Brah said, "Man...I ain't never seen or been through nothing like that. How you handling yourself so well?"  I honestly didn't know how to reply as this is second hand to me.

Above all, everyone made it out of the situation alive and well.  And two Sigmas from the Alpha Alpha Lambda Chapter of Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Inc. stood tall for serving humanity.

-Tyron

***Mike is not the actual name of the Sigma from Troy.**** 

Is Love Meant for Everyone

Alright audience, I got this homie right and I told him that I would not mention his name, but I was definitely gone to blog about him.

This past weekend, I went home to Brewton, Alabama to kick it with the lady and my classmates that I still deal with in what I call my 2^nd hometown (Evergreen, Alabama is the first of course).  But man we threw a couple back and ate some good barbecue with my mom’s bake beans and potato salad and you know how people get when they get full of food and alcohol.  The first thing is they get hella lazy and then they get to talking and drunk talking is always true talking. 

Know I thank God that my mother is a down to earth woman that loves good conversation and can be outgoing at times to make my company feel at home and cool when they around (However, respect is a must, ya dig?!).  Because some of the stuff that was coming out of my homies mouth, I could not honestly believe that he was saying it.

Now I would like to state for the record as I always do throughout my post because the truth must be put out there to all my readers when considering the facts and statements throughout my post.  But ladies and gentlemen, when someone get hurts regardless of rather you are a male or female, it takes a toll on you and sometimes forces us to become someone that we are not.

Taking the given into consideration, I will elaborate more on my homeboy and his conversation that lead me to the conclusion that he is just a lonely person that has been hurt extremely in some way.  Not allowing love to be an option throughout the duration of his life.  However, at the end of it all is love really meant for him or meant for everyone at all.

When I was first exposed to a woman and the power that they possessed when it came to the bedroom, it was mind blowing.  Okay, okay, to the fellows, let’s not get it twisted early on in the post with thinking that I am opposing the power of a man in the bedroom.  Besides, what woman wants a man that cannot handle his business (Exactly)?  But what I mean is when it all first started for me, my mom could even tell a difference in my swag and would often curse me out and tell me to get myself together because all I could think about was one thing (the next time it was going down).  After this experience, I gave myself a preset number and a display of different women I wanted to encounter before I would so call settle down.

Well my homie, he is the total opposite.  Could care less about a woman, respect, well you’ll get respect from him, but that’s gone be about it.  The question of respect comes to differ when you think of how he deals with the women that he encounters.  However, it’s a well-known fact that he makes it obvious when conversing with the opposite sex. 

The homie is always straight forward and if anyone implements the 90-hour rule that I made up against Steve Harvey’s “90-Day Rule” it would be him.  I mean literally, 30 minute drive to a destination, 30 minutes at the destination, and 30 minutes driving back to the crib to heat things up, you feel me (lol)?

I have never met someone that doesn’t believe in love or even believe that it exists.  Never wants to be married or consider himself a candidate for the particular subject.  “Player player til the day I die” is his motto.

Now I know that I have stated that this is my homie and I should very well know if he has been significantly hurt or not.  The truth be told, I honestly do not.  But my dog has no insight of what love really is.  I think this is the major factor in which eliminates the possibility of him being exposed to love. 

As a man I think he has a guard that will not allow anyone to penetrate it.  Like all men, has probably encountered numerous wives, but has yet to discover the undiscovered because of “himself”. 

I can’t be against the way you are or the way that you want to be.  I mean, you may be exactly what some women want.  Honest, direct, and that is all that it is (lol).  But mentally and spiritually you have to want more for yourself at some point in time.

As hard as you claim to be, it’s apparent that you don’t want to endure pain and hurt at the hand of a woman and truthfully what man does.  However, how will we grow and involve into men if we don’t experience the things that form us into “MEN”. 

I stated previously this week, well yesterday, that a preacher said in his sermon that it is easy to be a player.  Managing different women at different times is not a hard task.  On the other hand, the hard part of that is managing one woman, with all the other women still available and coming at you.  This will truly determine what kind of man you are.

Again, to my audience and readers, especially my dogs out there that are reading my post.  Know that I am not condoning against doing your thing.  I believe that this is a stage that all men must go through when learning to be a man.  Some of us just tap earlier than others.  But at the end of the day, when you sitting alone at the crib, what really matters (that’s another posting)?

So in conclusion, live life to the fullest.  You make your decisions and moves as you see fit.  Player, comforter, gigolo, notice that I did not say “gay”, do your thing.  Just know there comes a time when we must all tap and give our inner self to that one only other person that we see fit. Allow that one person to penetrate different avenues of yourself/your life that you never thought existed.  If you do this and only when you do this, you will feel what love really feels like.  Then again, if you’re that person that is scared that things may never be that way or you simply wish to steer away from that feeling, then hey what do I know?  Until the next time people, do you, have fun, and live life.

-TyRon

The Code

The Code

So this past weekend I was told by my best friend that since we were kids I have always violated the code. The code at this point-in-time is something that I guess one should define so that the audience can understand this post and see where I will attempt to go with this. “The Code” I'm guessing or could be expressed as the following:

1. You never go with or attempt to talk to a friends lady friend?

And/Or

2. If there is a girl that your friend is just smashing, she is still off limits, unless your homies tells you that you can smash her too.

Throughout this post, I will explain different situations that will expose you to see different sides/advantages and disadvantages of the code. All together, “The Code” is something that is created and reimplemented within a friend's circle. However, one must realized that if you decided to talk and be about the code, you must never break the code. In the event that you break the code, you can never talk about or bring the code up just because something doesn't go your way.

I use to just think that the code was if you smashing or messing with someone's girl, don't be in that persons face, smiling and laughing, trying to be cool like yall the best homies in the world. I always thought that this was the fakest thing a dude could ever do via “The Code”.

However, throughout growing through adolescences, I have come to realize that every situation when it comes to women are very different.

For Instance, I went throughout high school always sleeping with someone else's girlfriend. I mean I just always thought it was the thing to do and the thing to brag to all the homies about. “The Code” at this point-in-time in time only applied to the people within my circle though. Yes, maybe I knew you or knew of you, but if you wasn't the homie that was ride or die and your girl was looking, then somebody from “The Crew” was gone take her down through there. In the words on Sanchez, “You betta believe it!”

But while we were growing and evolving into young adults, we never thought about the flip side of things.

I mean after attending college, all high school seemed to be was the first wave of sex, sports, and popularity. Depending on which one of these categories in which you fail in made all the difference on which kind of person that everyone labeled you as. But as we got closer to that junior and senior year, things begin to change (in both high school and college). We begin to try and find something steady. Maybe we still have a bit of our doggish ways in us, but we decide to scoop up that one that we just want around constantly.

Now, lets back up just a little bit. We've created a somewhat foundation of what “The Code” can be considered or accepted as in this post. Understanding and accepting those terms and agreement, living in a small city, or controlled atmosphere, such as college, when one decided to chill out and settle down, what are gone to be the realistic chances of her not being with someone that you know?

I mean, its been 6 months, everything has been cordial and no need to invade either of your happiness, until that one night that yall just sitting around in the bed/couch/car etc. talking about different things and that question about who you been with pops up. At this particular time, when this knowledge is dropped on you, do you bail because of a name that you hear or do you press on because of your happiness? My actual advice and conclusion of this post will definitely come later, but that is a question for you.

The reason for this particular post captures a lot of things. I can honestly say that I have never violated the code intentionally. And honestly, when I became something like a pimp (lol), I followed the code to the “T”. Yes, whoever you are smashing is your business. The only people that you really consult in are the homies that you run with on a daily basis to make sure that you don't bump heads with them. Giving that you do, this is when the evaluation of the female is done and the question between the homies is “does really does it matter?” After that has been assessed, then you know rather you need to press forward or not.

The problem with this is when does “The Code” need to be amended. Is it considered hating because you really like a particular person and you want to have something with them, but they have history with your homie/friend and you already know that nothing will never become of them. Giving that you are still the “Triple OG” that you claim to be, never throwing salt on your dog. But you know the reality of things.

I always had a “pet peeve” about women and my friends. If you ever decided that you wanted to be with me for real and things were popping off between us, then you couldn't have slept with someone that is close to me. It just always seemed to be a problem when thinking about being around that particular person knowing that they smashed my ol' lady. So therefore, I always told myself that I would never put myself in that situation.

However, in today present time, I still “consider” that rule. But I have been exposed to best friends sleeping with ex-girlfriends that really made a difference in my life; getting hit in my face with brace-knuckles because of a “friendship” in which I had with a girl and her boyfriend just so happen to be my homie. She was a girl that lost her virginity to my best-homie of all times and he never stopped talking to her, with me being in the middle, the blame all came down on me; Proposing for the first and only time of my life to my cousins ex-girlfriend from high school, that is now madly in love with one of my classmates/childhood friends that I played football with for years; friends in the military that never really understood me or the code and always thought that I was after they women; losing that one high school sweetheart that I always saw and spent time with when I was in the military to my frat brother that is about to marry her; knowing of a relationship where a guy married his best friends girlfriend of 4 years; having a frat brother that knew I slept with his ace-boon-coon girlfriend of all his college years and never let that dictate how he felt towards her or how he would treat her because he loved her; and just to throw the icing on the cake, falling for a women that has had a relationship with my first-cousin and best-homie of all times.

Again, I swear that I'm trying to understand this “Code” thing for myself as one has told me that I have repeatedly broke it for years. But it seems to me that he never even understood what “The Code” really was.

One thing stands out in the post ladies and gentlemen. When we love who we love, we decide to do this as adults. If your unhappiness in your relationship continuously causes you to always find flaws in other peoples relationship or always trying to expose them because “you want your cake and to eat it too”, then you will forever be unhappy simply because you cannot focus of yourself.

So to my audience and all that just may happen to read this post. Know that you are who you are for a particular reason. The person that you wish to share who you are with will fit right in your life like a puzzle being assembled. As always, there will come times when you must take a break and look back on it all. But don't let your past or friends from your past dictate your future because you are the one in which has to deal with it. To “The Code” homies out there...know when to apply this and when to let it ride, don't miss out on the best thing of your life because “The Code” says that it wrong. I'm not saying be/become a hater or back door somebody close to you (just keep it 100). However, simply know whats wrong and whats right and whats love and what lust. Until next time.

-TyRon

The Public Apology (Female Version)

When evolving and going through adolescence are apologies still due to the people in which get their feelings hurt when learning life lessons? Truthfully, this question may be extremely broad, but people change like the weather even when you think that you know them. These public apology I know that my audience can relate in some kind of way, no matter what side of the stick you are on, so check them out (these names are made up, but all apologies apply somewhere within my life).

On behalf of men, let me just put a couple things out there. To Keisha, I'm sorry for not being who I knew I could be. Growing up the way that I did, receiving no attention from girls, once this was upon me, I had to learn how to handle it in my own way.

To Zakiyah, God couldn't have sent me another young lady so early on in my life to show me what it really felt like to love someone and go the extra mile for them. I know that I posed a threat to all your boyfriends there after, but it was because I knew that them guys were not me. After you slept with my best friend of all guys you could have choose, I forgave you because I definitely had my dirt on my hands, but if things could have been different or changed, I'd be in Auburn right by your side.

To DeAnna, beautiful, intelligent, with ambitions that cannot be measured. The first lady to come into my life and not take no junk. You were the only one and made sure that it stayed that way. I fail short of your glory by allowing our communication to slowly decease. I apologize a thousand time because you were truly where I wanted to be.

To April, I'm sorry that I was not man enough for you. Fearless in the bedroom and smart enough to know what was what. You where the reason for me getting stuck in the Marine Corps for 4 years and thats what I have to thank you for. I apologize for the pain that you've endured over the years because your heart ponders about what could have been.

To LaTika, you made me forget about everything else that existed. The time spent with you was like a breathe of fresh air. When I was with you, the sky was the limit. I apologize for not knowing my place which was by your side. I apologize for not realizing what I had, there is not a day that passes that I don't wonder where we would be if I was able to hold my own.

To Katrina, I'm sorry that you were lost without a clue as too what you wanted to do about me nor life. We definitely had good times though. However, I do apologize for the way that things ended up.

To Racky, you are a complete woman and I mean W-O-M-A-N. Any guy would treasure the moments in which he has with you if he honestly knew what he had. I apologize for not realizing a whole lot earlier that I needed to make a move.

To Le Le, I'm smiling right now writing this entry because you believed in me. You gave me the benefit of the doubt when all odds were against me. I'm simply saying I'm sorry because I wouldn't commit. Even though you pulled a flaw ass move with the Kappa that was honestly my arch revival/enemy, I still got made love for you and I'm sorry.

To Aj, I honestly thought that if the opportunity would have presented itself that you would have made me an happy man. I apologize for coming at you knowing that I could not capitalize giving that you decided that I was what you wanted to do. Looking at you always made me smile and wonder. Your uniques in beauty and skin tone was dazzling. I simply want to apologize because of how things ended and how we decided to treat each other.

To Sha, where do I begin? You free'd me!! Brought me from the darkness into the light to show me another aspect of life. Took my broken heart and mended it with inspiration and love. Accepted me for who I was when it was evident that I was not good enough. I apologize for taking you and your love for granted. I apologize for every tear that ever fell from your face because of something that I did that proved itself to be true. I know that you are a good fearing women so you see fit to forgive me. But I apologize from the bottom of my heart, because you actually saved me.

This posting may seem very weired and my audience may be like what the “you know what”. But these public apologize represent my growth. They represent that God believes in his children and he doesn't give up on us. God had blessed me a number of times with wives and honest women that could have me more than happy right now. However, just as I have fail short of their glory, I have definitely fail short of his.

A preacher guy once told me when consulting him about wives and happiness that there is not just one person made for you in this world. You simply have to have trust and faith in God that he will make that person for you. Sometimes we start something and it doesn't end, because its not time for it end. Just a time-out sessions to point something out to you that you really need to see or consider.

So to my audience, remember that we have to realize that all things happen for a particular reason. Especially when considering a love one. We all go through relationships like they are clothes and shoes and some of them are meant for particular reasons. Whichever those reason are, just realize the positives about it versus negative. Happiness is always just around the corner.

-TyRon

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Think Like A Man

The most random things cause the most random feelings.  The craziest things make people do the most idiotic things.

Throughout watching the movie “Think Like a Man” I proceeded to keep my mindset in one particular point-of-view.  However, it seemed as if I would be enlighten myself as well as allowing my brain to evolve a little to let some different things sink in. 

I have personally not read Steve Harvey’s Book in which this film originated from.  And as most critics would review, one should definitely read the book before viewing the film. 

Well audience, I went into the movie looking at Steve Harvey as a sell-out to men.  I honestly believe that as men there are things in which should stay amongst men.  For everybody thus far that is reading this and is already disagreeing.  Just think about it this way.  How many of these Lil’ young cats or men in general you know that take their woman to the barbershop with them?  I mean Steve did point out that we (men) want something to show off (trophy), but fellows you have to believe that there is a time and place for everything.  The barbershop is the men’s sanction, a place in which we go to talk about things that we don’t care to talk about around women.  Though a lot of Steve’s points-made throughout this film were pretty much common sense for a mature woman.  Hearing these things of this nature coming from another man was just kind of disturbing.  I mean look at it like this, how many of you guys that are making this mistake are going to the beauty salon with your woman?  Exactly, none!

Now I think it’s only right to say that I am a big fan of Steve and will always be.  I mean I listened to his radio show for 3 years straight (and honestly if I could figure out how to keep listening to it now, then I would).   The same radio station in which told me his real reasons for writing his book.  Steve told the world that he had a daughter and she was the inspiration to make sure that he taught her how to keep all the dogs away, because that’s daddy Lil girl.  Ok America, what person (or critic) can tell a father that he is wrong for whatever system he decides to use to protect his daughter?  None!!  However, at the exposure of what? Man, Steve use to have a line-up that couldn’t nobody even figure out why it looked the way it did, with swag and a suit, can’t nobody tell me he wasn’t doing his thug-thizzle….lol.  Am I attempting to justify treating women as if they are nothing or not worthy of love and affection and happiness and honesty because a guy wants to be a typical growing guy, No!  But relationships are here to teach and grow everyone that goes through them.  Taking the dogs and man whores completely out of the game would be eliminating a key party of the food chain.  Throughout all relationships and companionships there must be something to allow us to learn so that we know exactly when we have received the real things.  Like Steve said, “the women that already has a child/children and wants to wait 6 months before exposing her kid/kids to her new friend.  What if your friend doesn’t like your kids after being introduced, now you’ve just wasted 6 months for nothing?”  Typical guys are the same way; they’re needed, so for the brothers that is still going through their pimping stage, “pimp on brother”. 

Though the man-code was definitely violated, this film opened up my eyes because of the feedback in which came from everyone in the theater.  For instance, a lot of the situations from this film are pretty much common sense. Matter of fact, Steve should have just told the women of the world, “if you don’t have the common sense for yourself to analyze a situation and make sure that a brother understands your worth”, then you deserve to get dogged out.

Like that “90-Day Rule”, I don’t think in my little twenty-seven years of living and twelve years of so-called having sex that I have ever waited three months for sex.  Well hold on let me take that back.  My ex-girlfriend made me wait about that long.  Matter of fact, she took everything that I’ve taught her and is applying it to Steve’s frat brother nowadays.  And my ass in still alone without anything close to being a wife…cause she using the "Think Like a Man (Chestnut Version)" on someone right now. 

I do like the “90-Minute Rule” though, 30 minutes at the movies, 30 minutes at dinner and then 30-minutes driving back to the house…lol.  I think this makes a lot more since than waiting 90 days just to get laid.  What if you do wait 3 months and then it ain’t bout nothing.  Once again you have put yourself in another bad situation, of waiting and prolonging for nothing.

Lastly, I know I’ve thrown Steve’s name and his views around as if he acting like he’s not a man.  But in all reality, he exemplifies what you become when you’re ready to grow up.  Not just from the ladies aspect of looking at us guys, but all around.  A relationship will not be complete without two understanding people that share some type of passion. Changing this and that just to get laid, means changing and swapping number in the next couple of months, to get rid of a problem that just won’t leave you alone.

Fellows, I’ve definitely had my fun and I will not tell you to go one way when I have lived another.  I’d simply say be careful and know what you want when it’s all said and done.

To the homie Steve Harvey, great movie, to the audience, live life to the fullest, but learn how to really love and respect someone while doing so, and until the next time people, keep it real, it’s the only way to be.

-TyRon

 

My Ideas

Though I know many people would probably agree and disagree that if they were able to carry out half of the things in which they try in life that they would probably be millionaires. Well I'm here to say that my dream may soon come true. A lot of people laughed when I told them that one day I'd be very wealthy, but as a smell the taste of success, I just thank God for the opportunity in which he has provided for me. Therefore, everything in which I have ever dreamed or had a vision of doing, it will come into play. All my mentoring programs, giving back to my home community (Evergreen, Al), the entertainment lifestyle in which I oh so much want to be involved in. I'm telling you its about to pop off. So my message to anyone that reads this blog..."Don't let your critics or so-called friends dictate what and how you do things in your life, for they are the ones that will hold you back. Good luck to all your future endeavors.

-TyRon

Random Women in 2012

What ever happened to the girl from next door that all she wanted to do was see you and you would simply sneak through her window when her parents went to sleep?  Or the girl that you walked to class and exchange letters with in between those classes?  I remember back in the days when we would just sit on the phone and not even say nothing, just hold the phone, I guess listening to each other breathe.

Nowadays, its this and its that, mainly drama.  Women have become so indecisive that they don't even know if they are coming or going.  One week you want this, the next week you want that, man, half of you all can't even cook a descent meal.  In all honesty, what have times came too?

Your under the impression that all men or dogs and don't amount to nothing.  Just trying to find a half way descent one to keep you happy 70% of the time and be miserable for the other 30.  Supposedly expose to what you think the finer things in life are, so your left clueless about what a real man should look or feel like, no wonder women are turning to women, and righteously, that shyt crazy.

I'm caught in a twilight of trying to cypher between what real women really want.  I mean you can pull the typical hoodrat that thank she the hottest thing on the block with a couple meals, some shoes, and a hair-do or two.  If you know like I know, that's only gone last for a hot-second.  The "Terri Miles" that are so damn caught up in there careers that they don't even know what love or having a companion is anymore.  For the record, I would like to state that there is nothing wrong with this, but man and woman were created for each other ladies.  Don't get so caught up in your career that you forget the purpose of life.  We are here to pursue happiness and share that happiness with someone.  And then you have the typical chic, the one that choices to expose herself like she a "man".  Look, again for the record, there are things in which men and do and women can't.  After its all said and done ladies, you know exactly what I'm getting at, the man will come out on top every time if you try to contend in this particular category (laying up all the damn time).

Well ladies let me enlighten you on a thing or two.  Your p***y is no longer the main objective of a relationship, rather it be random, casual, or real.  We as men would like to acknowledge that the tables have turned for you just like they have turned for us.  Shid, we want a women with a job and some kind of benefits too, not to mention good credit.  What about attempting to do something that will sweep us off our feet and have us saying, damn??!!  I mean I'm just saying.  Realize a larger scale of things because we are not here forever.  Enjoy your life, stop allowing yourselves to be the status quo, because no matte how hard some of you try, that's the category in which you fall under.

So for those of you in which read this post, just know that there are still good men out there wanting for good women, because the 2012 Random ones are already played out and old.  #OnToTheNext

-TyRon